Women have been birthing children since time immemorial.

And yet, with thousands of years of evolutionary experience, one might think that birth would be a fairly simple, straightforward, and uncomplicated process.

This is not always so.

 
 

     Women have been birthing children since time immemorial. So long, it literally surpasses recorded time. As long as humans have been on this lovely, wonderful planet of ours, women have been giving birth. With all of the thousands of years of evolutionary experience, one might think that birth would be a fairly simple, straightforward, and uncomplicated process. This is not always so.

The processes of pregnancy and birth were overseen and guided by midwives. These were usually women who helped the expectant mother to move through the process of gestation with the preferred end results of healthy mums and babies. [Footnote about midwife gender?] During the time of pregnancy, many changes happen within the mums as the cells grow into a fetus, and the fetus grows into a child capable of surviving outside of the mother’s womb. The quality of the womb experience directly informs the growing being within the mother. [Stan Grof’s work can be cited here as a footnote. I have a section selected] As our knowledge of pregnancy and birth have shifted, refined, and evolved, new tools, methods, and procedures were created and added to the process, also with the preferred end results of healthy mums and babies.

Fast forward thousands and thousands of years to the 21st Century. Now, life tends to be more complicated, and has more moving parts. With our modern living, we don’t always have “our village” physically close by to help and support us. Our lifestyles, living preferences, and ways of being are part of the considerations made in and around pregnancy and birth. We have heard tales about women giving birth in the fields and continuing to work the rest of the day, bless them, and we don’t have to have that same experience. Easy and gentle is an option as well. Even mums who will shift back into the workforce can have time to bond with their babies and restore their bodies.

Midwives, having tens of thousands of years of experience (collectively speaking) with assisting women birth their children, there are subtle nuances which inform where a mum-to-be is within the birth process. With the addition of doctors, nurses, hospitals, equipment, etc., there is considerable terminology it is extremely helpful to know up front. This is information will assist mums to be better informed with enhanced knowledge so that clear communications within their birthing team can occur. The result is the mums can have more of the experiences they want to have as a co-creators in the process. The additional information helps the mum to be aware of her options throughout her pregnancy, allowing her to self-advocate knowledgeably and speak in the language of the medicals.

…thank you for all your help birthing Finn. Your presence was exactly
what I was looking for. A woman wise to the nuts and bolts of birthing and who
could hold me emotionally through the journey with encouragement and humour.
That combination is priceless. with much, much gratitude – Caroline, Pete, Finn
& Annabel

     With the technology and research in our current time, we have more information available than ever before. We have known for a very long time that the egg and sperm unite to initiate the process which begins cell growth. We have known about some physical traits being passed on, like eye or hair color.
What is new, is the understanding of other genetic material being passed on by the parents.

     I felt These genetic materials can be ancestral legacies of traumas, nutritional benefits/deficits, and toxicity levels. Ancestral information can be passed down through the lineage unless a conscious decision is made (and acted upon) to transform it, prior to the child being born. The nerves in the body have a tag-like structure on them caused by this unhelpful genetic material, which can cause a kind of sticking.[Foot notes may be used here.] Ideally, it would be helpful to start to clear the markers prior to conception, though that isn’t always possible, as both parents would need to do their respective parts. The next best thing is to work within a range of six (6) to eight (8) months prior to the birth to reduce or mitigate the unhelpful genetic material.

    There can be other trauma which is helpful to address. New mums can sometimes feel anxious because they might be unsure or don’t know what to expect, or what their pregnancy might feel like. (What will I need to do? How will I cope?) Mums who have given birth before may not have had a good delivery experience. Some mums who are older may have different concerns about the physicality of the pregnancy process, the birth itself, and their recovery. If left unaddressed, concerns like these could be stressors for the mum. The normal wishes and hopes of a mum for a healthy, happy baby can shift into less affirming thoughts, if kept inside, when there are doubts and concerns, no matter their possibility or probability of materializing.  And really, it’s not just the intensity level of a stress, it’s also the amount of time that the stress or trauma is held or experienced, which has an impact. 

     In the birth of a baby, success is generally measured in relation to the health of the mum and infant, with all as we had hoped it could be. (Oh, brilliant, everything is where is should be, and in the correct quantities. Does the baby have Aunt Suzanne’s nose?) After the well checks and a bit of time is spent in hospital, mum and infant go home. The home situation will vary, as there could be another at home or several others, waiting to incorporate the new member into the family. With luck, the little one will adapt seamlessly into the home life schedule and rhythms.

I can assist you in having a successful birth, if this is what you would like to create.

I want to thank you for guiding me though one of the toughest situations of my life. I honestly don’t know how I would have done it without you, also a huge bonus to have it turned into such a positive experience that I don’t think will leave a lasting feeling of stress in spite of the twists and turns. I feel very blessed to have met you. Thanks again – with love, Rachel

     The processes of pregnancy and birth were overseen and guided by midwives. These were usually women who helped the expectant mother to move through the process of gestation with the preferred end results of healthy mums and babies. [Footnote about midwife gender?] During the time of pregnancy, many changes happen within the mums as the cells grow into a fetus, and the fetus grows into a child capable of surviving outside of the mother’s womb. The quality of the womb experience directly informs the growing being within the mother. [Stan Grof’s work can be cited here as a footnote. I have a section selected] As our knowledge of pregnancy and birth have shifted, refined, and evolved, new tools, methods, and procedures were created and added to the process, also with the preferred end results of healthy mums and babies.

     Fast forward thousands and thousands of years to the 21st Century. Now, life tends to be more complicated, and has more moving parts. With our modern living, we don’t always have “our village” physically close by to help and support us. Our lifestyles, living preferences, and ways of being are part of the considerations made in and around pregnancy and birth. We have heard tales about women giving birth in the fields and continuing to work the rest of the day, bless them, and we don’t have to have that same experience. Easy and gentle is an option as well. Even mums who will shift back into the workforce can have time to bond with their babies and restore their bodies.

     Midwives, having tens of thousands of years of experience (collectively speaking) with assisting women birth their children, there are subtle nuances which inform where a mum-to-be is within the birth process. With the addition of doctors, nurses, hospitals, equipment, etc., there is considerable terminology it is extremely helpful to know up front. This is information will assist mums to be better informed with enhanced knowledge so that clear communications within their birthing team can occur. The result is the mums can have more of the experiences they want to have as a co-creators in the process. The additional information helps the mum to be aware of her options throughout her pregnancy, allowing her to self-advocate knowledgeably and speak in the language of the medicals.

I do have a question for you though:

What would it mean to you to uplevel your pregnancy journey, and have a good birth?

 

     Upleveling the pregnancy and birth experience

     There is a marked difference between babies who have experienced a good birth, as opposed to a just a “regular” successful birth. A good birth builds on top of a successful birth. However, there are some notable differences. A good birth starts with making decisions from a place of having a firm intention, rather than rerunning old patterns and programs from one’s history. Later, s/he will be calm, serene, and adapt more easily to the family’s schedule and pattern. Calmer children are able to take in more information from their environments and are as physically tiring as a dramatic child might be.

     Using new science to help transform the ancient legacy of birth

     For a good birth, there are practices which can be used for mindfulness. By mindfully bringing awareness and purposeful relaxation online, I can assist the mum in creating a special kind of container for transformation to happen within. Mindfulness down-regulates the brain to inhibit negativity, and it also creates a deeper relaxation for the body. In this deeper relaxation, the tag-like structures on the nerves can break off, to help smooth out the nerve. Let me make a clear distinction here: relaxation is not the same thing as mindfulness. Relaxing doesn’t change the brain.

     For a good birth, the mum will need to intentionally work with mindfulness exercises and practices to down-regulate her brain and create deeper relaxation for her body;  this will work to release inter-generational stress and trauma within her and the child. This purposeful relaxation allows more nutrition to the baby and reduces its restlessness. The deeper relaxation creates space for helpful changes within the DNA. Added to these benefits is that in utero, this has a training effect of getting the baby to be more on what the mum’s normal schedule is, once born.

     After the child has been born, the serenity and calmness will be remarkable. You might even hear comments about how good your child is from others. You will benefit from this calmness as the child grows, and not be as stressed. Your work of the exercises will pay off with the resulting relaxed infant.

 

I can assist you in having a good birth, if this is what you would like to create

 

Mother and the new prawn are doing very well, and his sister has taken to him immediately. Usual tiredness etc, but he is very calm after his birth, serene even. We can’t thank you enough for the support you have given us – Alex and Rachel

 

 Some final words

     There are always some people who seem to be on the edge (of growth). Not many… as it’s a very thin edge. There are a few stretching themselves further towards new information being presented. The people who feel there is more juice to be wrung out of life. Those who have a drive to really self-actualize. Is this you?

 

 

If it is, I have a question for you:

If you could uplevel from a good birthing experience to an even higher level, a conscious or empowered birth, would you be ready, willing or interested?

     An empowered birth is much more than a successful and good birth. It is, in a  way, supercharged. An empowered birth is when a mum works from her Deeper Wisdom, which informs her regarding the decisions she makes.

     For a good birth,As I mentioned previously, I can assist mums in having successful and good births. I am so deeply committed to helping mums safely bring their children into our world, and have been for my decades of work as a nurse and midwife. An empowered birth has considerably more depth and breadth than most mums may want to experience, and that is okay. We are where we are, until we are ready to shift. Be where you are, with your feet firm on the ground and owning where you are. You are brilliant, you are important, and you are okay, just as you are right now.

     For a good birth,If you are still with me, reading, I thank you for being open to possibilities. I feel so strongly that there are some mums out there who want more, yet don’t know how to define and ask for what they need. I have been pondering for some time now, how I could best be of service and stay working with mums. The empowered birth process is what I feel will support mums through their pregnancy and transform their lives at the same time. And yes, having a child (or another child) is a change which is transformational, and yet, and empowered birth goes even deeper and has long lasting effects throughout all of the different aspects of a mum’s life.

     For a good birth,As revealed earlier, an empowered birth is when a mother works from her Deeper Wisdom, which informs her regarding the decisions she makes. The aspects of an empowered mum’s birth are:

·         She uses the quality of her feelings to inform her about what is happening and makes her decisions (from her Deeper Wisdom) in alignment and congruence with her (previously set) intention

·         She feels confident and secure enough to hold the space, understanding that she cannot control the outcome, but she that she does has an enormous power to influence the results and, therefore, she is at peace to let go of being attached to the outcome. She knows that fear limits her capacity to create and respond as her best self in the moment.    [Note from Kelle – hold the space; and extra needed definition or explanation needed here?]

·         She has developed a Growth Mindset and knows how to easily shift into states such as curiosity, self-discovery, humor, receptivity, and deep inquiry. All of  which help her to change paradigms to others which will better support her needs now, and in the future

·         She trusts herself completely because she has learned the difference between the energy (or quality) of her Wise Self, which encourages her to go within and listen, intuit, value, and honor the messages she is receiving – it feels peaceful and loving. In comparison, false truths created by an Inner Judge which may feel scary, pushy, and punishing

·         She accepts responsibility for creating her future because she understands that there are untapped and under-utilized resources within her. So, to fulfil her deepest desires or dreams, she must begin by connecting to source power. Then she can use its energy to guide and support her  {Note from Kelle – source guide or the mum’s Deeper Wisdom? Please choose 1 or help me to rework it.}

·         She creates from a space of wholeness, completeness, and fullness. She is energetically completely and totally at one with herself and her child

·         She feels connected to something bigger than herself, the Universe|God|Goddess|All That IS, and trusts that it supports her. Wisely, she chooses to work with her source rather than against it

·         When facing challenges, she is able to see everything a gift and an opportunity. She focuses on what is possible for her to create and the pathway to how it can be done

·         Believes that she is a powerful woman, and experiences this as so.

I would be so very deeply honored to assist you in having an empowered birth, if this is what you would like to create.